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Dealing with Conflict

4 July, 2012

“Ah, conflict: what an opportunity”.  There are some very useful books on dealing with conflict that can help everyone.

Conflict Management Coaching : the CINERGY model, by Cinnie Nobel, is a book about improving skills for dealing with interpersonal disputes.

If you think about conflict as an opportunity to bring about positive change, read Everyone Can Win:Responding to Conflict Constructively  by Helena Cornelious and Shoshana Faire.

The 4 Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom was written by Mexican shaman, teacher and healer Don Miguel Ruiz  and provides inspiration on the journey to better communication, relationships and healing.

Getting to Yes: Negotiating Agreement without Giving In  by Roger Fisher and William L. Ury.  If you listen to Ury’s story about the 17 camels told at TED, you’ll also know that it might be prudent to look for a wise person for advice when in the midst of a conflict.

Marcia Reynolds is the author of Outsmart Your Brain: How to Make Success Feel Easy  and writes about the power of our brain and how we can develop emotional intelligence to improve our success.

Also take a look at the Arbinger BooksThe Anatomy of Peace  and  Leadership and Self Deception. The books use the fictional story of a family in conflict and give some useful tools for interpersonal and international conflict.  Arbinger runs training in NZ and around the world based on the books’ content.

I would be happy to talk you through any conflict issues that you, or someone you know is facing.  Sometimes, we get caught up in conflict unknowingly or unwittingly.  The hard part is getting back out of it, and that is when the best call anyone can make is: “I must call in a Coach”.

Help and support is at hand.  Wishing you well.

Claire Porima Coaching.